Monday, June 8, 2009



found this while surfing apis's blog....
i think people with S3 should definately buy this!! at sarakids boutique..
malam jumaat, aku tengok star trek ngn bebudak maahad...

sabtu pagi, went to OU with cousin Eila...
our babies kena kidnap, so might as well enjoy the free time..
kesian aku tengok die, nampak baby je mengalir air mata....
lecehnye,...kang automatic air mata aku pun mengalir gak...
(tapi kalau org nangis sebab2 emo and saiko... mmg no mercy from me)
amir balik umah sabtu kul 2...
kesian ibu jari kaki die, cam melecet.... ni pakai kasut disney...
so aku cam biasa, kecoh nak carik kasut lagi... any reason to shop, right?...

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so ahad aku nak gi gym kat curve.....
rafiq jaga amir for 1 hour while im at the gym... then go sopping...
this is how i found them afterwards...
bila tah nak gi post opis, pulangkan angelpack ni tatau aa...
seb baik shida pun tak post lagi my vatanai.. hehehe sesama busy...

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silap besar la masuk kedai oshkosh.... ade 1-day sale pulak...
so we bought open toe sandal for amir.. with socks..
osh kosh ade toe area... so aku pun terpengaruh with this sale pitch..
especially after toe amir melecet... nanti aku boh pics


aku rase cam tertarik muscle kat gym ...tapi okay la, masih boleh bergerak...
masih boleh babywear amir...
tapi masa gi ikea cafe.. asik nak kena tangkap amir.. bending down constantly....
memang snapped abis blakang aku.... rafiq lak gi beratur beli food..
lama gile.. crowded gile... benci gile aku....
so last2 we ate at a corner... makan dari trolley.. takde meja pun... lantak aaa...
amir asik kena buli kat play area.. sebab die paling kecik...
kids are mean....territorial sungguh....
sama cam mak bapak yg macam predator when it comes to finding place to eat at ikea...

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Friday, June 5, 2009

A few examples.. I think these are easier said than done... cakap sonaaang..

but after seeing a boy got slapped tiba2 kat pyramid tadi.. waa, kesiannye die..
toddler je lagi.... what does that achieve? aku rase mak die malu anak die baling toys... tetiba gi sepak.. saje nak tunjuk org awam yg die (mak die) in charge la... aku ngn sanaa cam tercengang.. sebab seriusly ni toddler.. 2 tahun gitu... not some naughty 3-5 year old children yang patutnye paham whats going on...




Your child wants to play with/touch something that is off limits

1. Babyproofing will help make your house safer and less frustrating to your toddler. Cover electrical outlets with covers especially made for that. Put cords out of reach. Put up anything that you would be angry at your child for breaking or that is too dangerous for him to play with.

2. Use alternatives to "no" when possible. For instance, use descriptive words. . . if your child wants to touch the hot faucet, say, "Hot!" Some parents say, "Stop!" (And then offer your child something he *can* touch.)

3. Tell your toddler to put his hands behind his back instead of telling him "no" all the time. This enables him to lean forward and really study an object and may help get rid of his urge to touch it.

4. Teach your toddler how to "just touch." In our family we taught our children that meant they could reach out an index finger and gently touch the object (that way they couldn't grab it, but could satisfy some curiosity). Reach out your index finger to the object and thus help your child remember how to touch (not grab) the object; perhaps draw their attention to the texture of the object, "Feel how bumpy (or smooth) this is."

5. Sometimes it can help if you let your child touch, or even hold something in their lap, under your guidance. Show him how to touch things gently. You can say, "Gentle touches," and demonstrate.

6. If touching is not an option, then distract them. This is kind of like changing the subject. "Hey, take a look over here. Isn't this cool?"
7. Say, "That's not for **insert their name," or, "That's not a toy." Then add, ". . . here is something you can play with."

8. If possible, offer them an alternative that is similar to the desired object. If they want to play with your breakable glass snow globe, offer them a child's plastic snow globe.

9. Sometimes an object is high enough that a child can't reach it, but is so desirable to your child that they get very upset that they can't have it; if offering alternatives or distractions don't work, consider putting the object away in a closet or room where they can't see it so it doesn't continue to make them upset.

10. Give your child a special drawer or cupboard in the kitchen full of toys--perhaps measuring cups, plastic plates, cups, spoons, etc.--your child can play with while you are in the kitchen. This can work for other parts of the house, too. . . for instance, if there is a bookcase with books your child likes to take out and throw on the floor, offer him a shelf on the bookcase with books and toys of his own "You cannot play with these books, but this is your shelf, and you can play with the books on this shelf."

Your child doesn't want to leave or stop a certain activity when it's time to stop.

1. Encourage your toddler to say "bye-bye." It seems to give them a sense of closure. If they have to stop playing with a certain toy, for example, try waving your hand at the toy and telling your child, "Say bye-bye to the car." Or, "Say bye-bye to the ball." My 13 month old is starting to get this!

2. Have a toy handy to distract your little toddler with.

3. Give your child a "warning" before making them change activities. "Ellen, we will have to leave in a couple minutes."

4. For an older toddler, sometimes also counting to ten helps. Then they know for certain how much longer they have left to play. Tell them, "You can play with that until the count of ten," or "It'll be time to get out of the bathtub when I count to ten." This certainly doesn't work with our one year old, but it worked for our daughter when she was two, and we still use it now that she is four (only now we count to 20). This took a little while for her to learn, but after counting she is usually ready to go on to the next activity. Or, you could use a timer.

5. Don't bribe, but you can tell them something fun they can do after they do what you've asked. "After you clean up your toys, we will go for a walk in the park." (And help them clean up.)

Your child hits you (or sibling, cat, etc.).

1. Tell your child that hitting hurts and that hitting people (or animals) is not allowed. "We don't hit people." (Suggestion... try not to overreact when you say, "Ouch!!" or your child may think it's funny and do it again for your reaction. :-/)

2. Show your child how to touch gently and find a kind of code word or phrase that you consistently use when he hits as a reminder of how to touch such as "gentle," "gentle touches," or "soft."

3. Quietly say, "We don't hit people," amd then redirect his attention to an appropriate activity.

4. Depending on the situation and a child's ability to understand, offer him your hand so he can give you a "high-five" or give him something else to hit, like a pillow. . . "You cannot hit me, but you can hit this pillow."

5. As they learn to speak, teach your children to "use their words" instead of acting wrongly to get their way. Instead of hitting, help them learn to say, "I'm mad." "You've hurt my feelings." Even before they learn to speak, verbalizing for them how they feel can help them understand their feelings better and can help them feel understood.

6. Set a good example and don't hit or slap your child or in front of your child--whether under the guise of discipline or in a joking manner. For instance, some people might tell someone, "Oh, you're being silly," and then "playfully" punch that person on the shoulder. Some people "playfully" give their child a slap on the rump.

7. Be careful of what your child watches on TV.

8. Choose his playmates carefully.

9. Sometimes your child might need a little "**insert child's name*** time" or some "quiet time." This should not be a time to make him feel bad or to punish him, but instead the goal is to diffuse an explosive situation and help your child calm down. If he is a child who likes routine, he may appreciate doing the same thing each time in the same place, but don't make a list of rules that he must follow during his quiet time. Your toddler might just like to sit in your lap and cuddle; a nursing toddler might like to snuggle and nurse. How about a book? If he would enjoy a little time alone, that can be a good choice sometimes, but don't leave him alone to cry and be angry, and don't leave him alone if he is scared. As he gets older, help him create a special, comfortable place with calming activities (perhaps drawing paper and crayons, play dough, books) where he can go when he starts feeling upset. Be sure to go with him if he needs your presence.

10. If your child won't stop hitting you, as a last resort, consider holding him in your arms until he stops. Let him be angry and let him cry to get his anger out. Tell him, for example, "It's all right to be angry, but I can't let you hurt me when you are angry." Assure him that you love him and are there for him. Perhaps kneel down behind your child, embrace him, and put your arms around his arms so he can't hit you; being forcefully held while facing toward a parent makes some children much more angry.

Won't stop throwing a toy

1. Distract your child. . . get him interested in something else--another toy or activity such as turning on music and dancing, playing "ring around the rosies," or blowing bubbles (and if necessary, quickly hide the toy).

2. Show your child acceptable ways to use the toy. "We don't throw trucks, we make them go vrrrrrm, vrrrrrm." If it's a ball your child is throwing, and you don't want him to throw it inside, say, "We throw balls outside; inside we roll them," and show him what you mean.

3. Give them an alternative toy that they can throw, perhaps a bean bag or a scarf. "You can't throw that, but you can throw this."

4. Show your children acceptable ways to express their anger. Maybe they could hit a pillow (have a pillow fight with an older toddler!). Empathize and tell them "I can see that you are angry, but that toy is not for throwing. You may do **insert option** instead."

5. Teach them to "use their words." Instead of throwing a toy out of anger, maybe they can say, "I'm mad." "You've hurt my feelings." "It makes me angry when you **insert what makes them angry."

6. Explain to your child that he will not be able to play with that toy if he continues to throw it ("this toy will have to go bye-bye for awhile"--and offer an alternative). Put it away if he continues to throw it and take it out another day.

Thursday, June 4, 2009

6 bulan



8 bulan



11 bulan

amir tengah gosok gigi, gamba kul 6 pagi arinih.. pagi2 dah berak...hampehs

semua setting snaps yang sama.. for IttiBitti size L.... hahah size tak berubah...
so walaupun ade size, aku still dapat pakai for dekat 6 months ni.... best best..

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

I like this concept... we're doing this...
mostly out of laziness to prevent him from danger...
so we just babyproof the house...
(it's christian mother's site.. but good info on GD... I need examples!)


http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/articles/jeri/babyd.php

One of the situations that causes stress to many parents happens when their baby learns to crawl or scoot around and refuses to leave certain objects or areas alone. For this type of "problem," babyproofing is essential. Babyproofing not only helps protect a baby from dangerous objects and situations, it gives him the opportunity to satisfiy his innate curiosity and helps protect material valuables.

Some parents choose not to put away their valuables and instead slap hands, etc., or even yell, to get their point across. It's harmful and unfair to expect something of a child that he is not developmentally ready to handle. Often, the best and safest way to protect both your child and breakable items that are special to you is, if possible, to remove the item. On the other hand, showing a child he cannot touch something by slapping or spanking him will bewilder and scare him and teach him that hitting is an okay thing to do.



so far... I learn...

1. Remove the bad situation from baby
2. Remove baby from bad situation
3. Distraction
4. sometimes let natural consequences occur...

(next time aku boh example)...
I think Ray sure got lotsa info on this... heheh this is so Ray's area...
aku plak takleh posting kat MBW....
Someone please recommend me some books or websites (with examples)..
on GD...

Problem 1: Meal time... Amir tanak duduk dalam seat coz he's bored...
also sebab die mmg tak suka makan... why should he sit down kan?
Not a problem at home.. but a huge problem going out... distraction usually works.. but not all the time..

Problem 2: Kenkadang he likes to bite... bahu, betis peha...
maybe due to not giving enough attention...
I have said NO!..heepp!!!.... but he thinks its playing coz then he will grin....everytime..


hmm.. tu jelah masalah aku....
aku takde masalah nak mendisiplinkan ngn cara garang..
but I dont think it works... (refer problem 2)
so why waste time and effort doing it.. need to explore alternative....
cam parents aku yg super duper garang kat aku sebab aku anak first..
sebok nak set boundaries and discipline...

contohnye: hiburan...
so no music in the house... HMI takleh tengok...
kalau kitorang beli walkman senyap2 (aku and adik aku no.2)..
bapak aku jumpa, die pecahkan...
end up... aku gi US, aku pasang MTV 24-7....

skang diorang sungguh dah mellow out.... siap belikan mp3 player utk adik aku 2 org yg terakhir tu... siut jerr.... mp3 player rosak, suh parents aku ganti....

ini satu contoh.. ade banyak lagi... so end up... aku la yg paling screwed up..
(paling tak berdisiplin antara kitorang 4 org)...
but aku tatau other ways to do things besides harsh disiplin.. coz I was raised like that.... so I need to find books with examples....

copied from here


The Russian writer Anton Chekhov wrote a short story "Who Was to Blame," about his uncle who tried to teach a kitten to catch mice. Whenever the kitten refused to give chase, his uncle beat it. After the animal grew up into an adult cat, it always cowered in terror in the presence of a mouse.

So how does a kitten learn how to hunt mice? I was told the following: In the beginning, the mother cat brings to her hungry kitten a dead mouse for it to eat. After it becomes accustomed to this food, the mother cat brings a mouse that is just barely alive. Then the mother cat, brings progressively more lively mice for her kitten to chase, play with and eat. If the mouse manages to escape, the mother cat recaptures it and brings it back in a more disabled state making sure her kitten achieves success. In this way, the kitten develops its skills in hunting and killing mice, so that it can survive. The mother cat never punishes her little kitten. We humans have much to learn from this mother cat.

Monday, June 1, 2009

Jom buat kuiz amir @ facebook...



playing with the toy house at hospital sri kota klang...
sambil tunggu tunggu orang...
Ni kasut org lain beli.. cap disney kot..


Sejak "dapat kaki", die dah tak boleh duduk diam....
tensen nye aku....
keje die nak main ajer...
nasib baiklah rumah aku babyproof...
(lebeh kurang lah, still boleh accident if he falls flat on his face)..
so takyah kejar die sana sini nak prevent him from playing anything or at places he shouldnt be playing with/at..
so I can just lay down and let him loose....
aku kena baring.. kalau aku duduk main laptop, die nak join...
so aku baring main ipod, tgk tv.. berguna gak mende alah nih...
so bila aku baring...
bila bila dia haus, minum la seteguk dua from the milk fountain...
pastu sambung main....


aku pulak ... boobs dah ditrain to let down within 40 seconds...
so walaupun amir isap 2-3 kali, katakan 20 saat je die minum...then gi main....
still 20 seconds after that, akan terletdown walaupun dah stop isap..
next time die dtg lagi.. pun jadik lagi.. hampeh la cicah cicah je....
boleh tak minum sekali harung.... geramnyee...
so anyways... I smell like stinky cheese.... always and forever...
Cuppacake story **here**

weii, dah besar pun berbuai gak ke.... buruknye gaya tido... hmmph...




kiri: now
kanan: 5-6 months ago